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Self Doubt No More

Posted by The Scroll Saw Lady on 15th September 2008

Secrets to Overcoming Self-Doubt
By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Grace_Mason]Grace Mason

Self-doubt is something we all experience in our day to day life. It is nothing new. But, it becomes a problem when it permeates into every aspect of a persons life and prevents them from living life to the fullest. If self-doubt has become a problem for you, the danger is that you may decide to settle for mediocrity. This is because, self-doubt has the power to destroy your confidence, cripple you and stop you from pursuing your dreams.

But there is good news for you; you do not have to settle for mediocrity, you can banish self-doubt and be able to live life to the maximum.

Here are 3 secrets to overcoming self-doubt:

1.) Do not be afraid to make mistakes

Self-doubt is grounded in fear, – fear that we will make mistakes or do the wrong thing. It is simply the fear of negative things happening. In order to overcome this fear you will need to change your thought pattern.  Human beings are not perfect and making mistake is something we do. So don’t allow mistakes to make you feel guilty and bad, rather, let them be your teacher. Remember that you can recover from making a mistake, so do not allow the fear of making one imprison you in self-doubt. Know that just because you make mistakes does not mean you are a failure. Go on and try something new, you will never grow unless you take risks.

2.) Do not allow your feelings to rule your life.

We were all born with the ability to make our own decisions without any influence from outside. Self-doubt forces us to do things by placing outside pressure on us. In other to overcome it, you need to recognise that doubt is just a thought in your mind. It only has power to stop you from enjoying life if you allow it. Remember that you have the ability to go forward and do whatever you need to do regardless of how doubtful you feel. I know that feelings are often very strong and it is not always easy to go contrary to them. But, to be able to enjoy freedom from self-doubt you need to behave contrary to these feelings of doubt. Otherwise, it will continue to run your life and hold you in bondage.

3.) Practice at being positive.

Overcoming self-doubt is just a matter of doing away with one habit and forming another one. Discipline is required anytime a person is forming a new habit. Practice believing in yourself rather than doubting. Bear in mind that, in any situation you could either be wrong or right. So why not take the positive approach first?Purposefully try to look at the positive side of every situation. Look at the glass of water as half full instead of half empty. For example, if you are going to apply for a new job, don’t start by saying “I am not going to get that job” but rather say words like “I believe that I will get the job”. Then, regardless of how negative you may be feeling about yourself take action and apply for it. The biggest mistake will be allowing your thoughts and feelings to stop you from giving it a try at all and then spending the rest of your life regretting and blaming yourself. Practice, practice, practice and before long you will start to actually feel better about yourself.

It starts with you

Overcoming self-doubt begins with you. You must believe that you are able to achieve your destiny in spite of what other people say or what your own mind and feelings say. May be you had negative messages fed into you since you were a child. It could have been a parent who excessively compared you to a sibling giving you the impression that you were flawed. But whatever the reason for your self-doubt and negative attitude towards yourself, the power to change lies with you. If you desire to be able to fulfill your dreams, then you must make a decision to start believing that you are a valuable person with a purpose to fulfill on this earth.

Grace writes a blog on building self-confidence. Check her blog at: http://selfconfidence-tips.blogspot.com

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Self Confidence

Posted by The Scroll Saw Lady on 13th September 2008

You know most of us are born with self confidence.  Watch a child climb on the furniture or over something without ever thinking about it.  Why do they do it?  Because they can, or at least they believe they can.  Children for the most part are not afraid to try new things, it is their parents who tell them not to do something because “They might get hurt.”

I believe scroll sawing, if you give it a chance is one way of rebuilding self confidence lost.  It is not hard to learn, it is realatively safe and it is fun.  Just because you might be woman is not a good reason not to try it.  Again, who told you woman can’t do woodworking?  Don’t believe them!

Start small and build your confidence with simple projects, then as you start believe you can, start building bigger and better things!  Just get started, what have you got to lose?

Happy Scroll Sawing!

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Building Self Confidence

Posted by The Scroll Saw Lady on 26th July 2008

This blog is about women trying new things and building their own self confidence.  So when I read this article I thought how great it would be for this blog.  Please enjoy.

7 Simple Steps to a More Self Confident Life
By Wil Dieck

Your self confidence affects just about everything in your life. How well you get along with people, your relationships with friends and family, as well as your job opportunities are all directly affected by how confident you feel about yourself. In fact, how confident you feel affects how well you enjoy your life!

People that don’t feel good about themselves, people that lack self confidence, can find the prospect of a job interview terrifying. They experience poor relationships, if they have any real relationships at all. They find themselves in constant fear of losing their jobs because they aren’t able to express themselves in front of their boss of in group situations.

Socially these people also struggle. How can they find someone to go out with when the mere idea of meeting new people petrifies them? Social events and encounters are painful illustrations of their lack of confidence.

Life doesn’t have to be like this. With a change in perspective, a little help and some work, you can have the self confidence you desire. Here are seven simple steps to help you develop more self confidence.

1. Decide to make a Change

Once they’ve decided, nearly everyone finds making a change easier. Every change I’ve ever made, from getting in shape to learning how to be more personable, has been a result of deciding to make that change. All changes are relatively easy once you’ve decided to make them. So if you think you’d like to be more confident, make the decision to be more confident today. That leads us to step number two.

2. Why is it Important to You?

Once you’ve made a decision to change, in this case deciding to become more confident, its time to figure out why it’s important to you. Why specifically do you want more confidence? Is it so that you can speak up in meetings at work? Is it so that you’ll be able to meet someone to go out with? Is it so you’ll be able to learn better at school or play a sport better? Whatever it is you need to understand and define it so that you can motivate yourself with it. This leads to step three.

3. Make it a Goal

Here’s where the rubber meets the road. Many people know they need to change and decide to change. They know what result they want out of the change but they don’t make it a goal. They wish their life would change, they think their life should change but they don’t take the steps needed to make the change. When you make a goal you not only decide what you want your outcome to be but you also figure out the steps you will need to do to achieve it.

Now this can’t be merely a mental exercise. In order to make your goal achievable you need to write down your outcome. Once you’ve written down your outcome you need to write down the steps you need to do to achieve it. Writing down your goal and the steps you need to achieve it does two things for you. First it makes your goal a real tangible thing instead of merely a dream. Second, writing down the steps gives you the ability to make corrections as necessary to help you stay on track.

For example your outcome is to be able to speak up more in business meetings. Your outcome might be “I will express my opinion in every business meeting.” The steps you might outline to achieving this goal might be:

1. Prepare for meetings and know what topics are going to be discussed.
2. Talk to someone or find someone to model who speaks well at meetings you attend. (see step 4)
3. Prepare a one-line comment on one of the topics.
4. Practice what you will say in the theater of your mind (see step 5)
5. Express your comment at the meeting.

Now you have a goal that is achievable you might need some help. So that leads us to step 4.

4. Find Someone to Model

From the time we are babies we model other people’s actions and behaviors. Have you ever done something and after noticing what you’ve done said to yourself, “That is exactly what my mother/father would have done?” That is a form of modeling, just at an unconscious level.

A more empowering form of modeling is when you find someone that has the characteristic(s) you want to have and purposefully model it. If you want to be able to speak well in front of groups, find someone who is good at speaking in front of groups and model her behavior. See how she stands, how she holds her head, how she speaks and uses her hands. If you are a man looking for a way to meet women, find a man who is already good at meeting women and model his behavior. What does he say? How does he dress? What are his mannerisms?

Whatever it is, there are lots of models to choose from. They include friends, acquaintances, family members, professional coaches, training videos and just about anyone else on the planet. An important point to remember is that the best model is one you like and you are able to adapt your own personality to.

Once you have someone to model its time for step five.

5. Visualize Your Success

From master pianists to NASCAR drivers, all people who are good at something have one thing in common, they practice. If you want to be good at talking in front of people you have to practice. If you want to be good at conversing in social situations you have to practice. Of course if you go about whatever you want to do without rehearsing it can be quite nerve wracking. In fact if you try something that you are not good at yet and fail completely it is possible your progress might be set back indefinitely.

So how can you prepare for a successful outcome? You can visualize your success in the theater of your mind. Let’s say you want to be able to speak up at business meetings. Find a place where you can sit or lie down comfortably without being disturbed. Now relax. Use some progressive muscle relation or just tell yourself I am relaxed and calm, relaxed and calm, over and over again until you are relaxed and calm.

Now play a movie in your mind of how you would like for the events to transpire. Make the movie as vivid and clear as possible. Use your imagination to see the details, hear the voices and other sounds in the room. Feel how you would sit. Then in your mind address the group as if you already had the confidence you are striving to develop. Notice how you appear, how your heart beats, how you breathe. Make the adjustments necessary to achieve the outcome you desire. If you are having problems seeing yourself accomplishing the task(s) well, focus on the why, the potential benefits you’ll get from achieving your goal. Practice over and over again until you have that image etched firmly in your mind.

Once you’ve practiced with visualization it’s time for step six.

6. Go Do It

You’ve decided to change. You know the reason(s) you want to change. You know your motivation. You have a model and you’ve prepared in the theater of your mind. Now its time to give it a try. If what you want to do is speak in your business meetings at work, give it a try. Even if it’s only a few words or to comment on someone else’s comments, as long as you are doing something that is moving you toward your goal, just do it. If you are looking to meet more people you might start by smiling at people you meet and saying “hi”. You will become more confident through the process of stretching yourself. This will move you toward your goals.

Now that you’ve actually done what you set out to accomplish its time for the final seventh step.

7. Decide that Everything is Feedback

When we start new things, from playing a new sport to meeting new people, we are not going to be excellent at it from the very start. Everything takes practice. When you do something you are not good at (yet) you are stretching yourself, you feel uncomfortable and you will make some mistakes.

Developing confidence in whatever it is you want to develop it in will also take practice. And just like learning anything, you will sometimes do things that you may not have preferred to do if you were “perfect” at it. You will make some mistakes.

When that happens remind yourself that mistakes are the way we all learn. A mistake is not failure, it is merely feedback. By calling it feedback you have re-framed or redefined your results.

So from now on instead of thinking of having “failed” when things don’t work out “right” merely observe what happens and call them “results”. Understand the feedback you have been given by your results and apply it to approaching your task differently the next time. The key is to remember that no matter what results you achieve, when you define them as feedback, they become either actions you want to do again or actions you don’t want to do again. You now are experiencing feedback instead of failure.

Once you start seeing your results as feedback you’ll begin adjusting your actions to match what you want to achieve. This will help you persist until you achieve your desired outcome. If you are committed to this process you will be able to build life long confidence in any area of your life.

So let’s review the seven steps.

1. Decide to change.
2. Decide why it’s Important
3. Understand Your Motivation
4. Find Someone to Model
5. Visualize Success
6. Go Do It
7. Decide that Everything is Feedback

That’s it, seven simple steps that can move you toward confidence in any area of you life. Seven easy steps toward achieving more out of life. So what are you waiting for? Why not start on your life long confidence journey today?

Bio
Wil Dieck is the founder of Total Mind Therapy, a combination of hypnosis, NLP, breathing techniques from the martial arts and visualization used for goal setting. His practice is located in San Diego, California. For more information about Wil and his practice please go to http://www.TotalMindTherapy.net

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Women And Confidence

Posted by The Scroll Saw Lady on 22nd July 2008

I really don’t want this blog to only be about woodworking and scroll sawing.  This blog is here to show women they can do something they never thought they could accomplish.  It is about inspiring each other to try new things, to build confidence and independence.

I want women to have a voice about how they tried something new and failed, but, tried again and then succeeded.  It is about facing your fears and over coming them.  Franklin D. Roosevelt himself said it best “The Only Thing We Have To Fear, Is Fear Itself.”  Don’t let the fear of trying something new stop you. So what, you make a mistake, no harm, no foul, try again.

I hope you will all share your trials and tribulations, your fears, your desires, your triumphs and successes.  Come on ladies, step out of the comfort zone, the water is fine!  Scroll Sawing is one of the safest and easiest to learn arts in woodworking.  Trust me, the first time you cut something out while scroll sawing, you will be hooked and your confidence will grow in leaps and bounds.

Give it a Try, what do you have to lose?

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